|How I Knew Janice|
An additional tribute page can be found here, but I'm not sure if it's still available.
For a look at the memorial ad I took out in the local paper on the one year anniversary of her passing, click here.
1) My wedding to Janice Elaine Harvey, on May 18, 2003.
2) My favorite picture of Janice...although she hated it...saying she looked like ''a bush with legs''!!
3) Her parents, Roland and Sonia Harvey, favorite picture of Janice, their only child.
4) The cremation urn that I chose for her...green was her favorite color, as evidenced by the color scheme on this page...to go with the black background of mourning.
5) The headstone on her grave. Her urn is in a mausoleum in Apopka/Forest City, Florida, where her parents live.
6) The cremation urn that I have for myself. Janice loved music, and she praised God with her talents.
7) The memorial flower arrangement I had at Second Baptist Church, Little Rock, Arkansas (my one time church home), in memory of both Janice, and my father, J.D.; pancreatic cancer claimed his life almost 3 months before Janice died. He and my Mom had celebrated their 54th wedding anniversary the previous Dec. 20.
8) The two Lucite Replica bricks of the 2 engraved bricks at the Diamond Terrace, which is located at the headquarters of the American Radio Relay League, the U.S. National Association for Amateur Radio...in Newington, Connecticut, a suburb of Hartford. One is for the one I have taken out in her memory as my wife (which I kept)...and the other is the one I took out in memory of her, from her parents (which they have). While Janice was my wife, she was first and foremost, Roland and Sonia Harvey's daughter.
Janice was studying for her Technician Class Amateur Radio license at the time of her death...and she was looking forward to sharing another one of my hobbies. As a side note, XYL is ham radio shorthand for ''ex-young lady''... more appropriately ''wife''. And, DE is ham radio shorthand for the word ''from''. These bricks have my original ham radio callsign of N5VLZ...but as of June 5, 2009, I changed to the vanity callsign AE5WX. I then changed to my current vanity callsign WX1DER on December 27, 2012.
Tragically, a heart attack claimed her life on April 27, 2007; 3 weeks shy of our 4th wedding anniversary...she was only 48 years old. This website is dedicated to her memory.
Special thanks goes to Griffin Leggett Funeral Homes, who handled Janice's funeral...and who will handle mine, if I should die before the Rapture Of The Church. I highly recommend pre-arrangement for funeral planning for everyone...whether you use Griffin Leggett Funeral Homes, or some other funeral home. It can save a lot of stress and grief to those left behind at your death.
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After moving to the United States with her family, to obtain medical treatment, Janice became a naturalized U.S. Citizen. She graduated from St. Mary's Catholic Academy in Bronx, New York...then later graduated from Cornell University in Ithaca, New York, with a Bachelor Of Arts Degree in Psychology. After moving to Arkansas, she graduated from the University Of Arkansas at Little Rock, with a Master Of Arts Degree in Psychology.
Throughout her life, she didn't let her disabilities hinder her creativity, or her desire to succeed. Janice was caring, unselfish, and gave of herself in so many ways. Reading and music were her passions. She also had a love for all creatures of God's Creation, and she had a special love for dachshunds...also known as ''weenie dogs''. For a look at the two dachshunds that Janice and I had at separate times during our marriage (we only had one dachshund at a time), click here.
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Anyway, I was at her house, helping her with a computer issue, and was seated in a swivel chair, which was on a threadbare rug on a hardwood floor. She told me to NOT lean back in the chair, but like a ''type A male'', I didn't listen. The chair basically ''bit me'', tipping over, and cutting a huge gash in my lower back. She said ''OK, take off your shirt'', then she broke out the First Aid Kit, and began swabbing the wound. A few days later, I had to go to the clinic, due to lower back pain...and the doctor remarked ''whoever worked on this virtually wiped out any chance of infection''...and that stuck with me all these years.
Just before I proposed to her in 2002, I was walking her weenie dog (dachshund), Fritz, (who thought he was too sexy for his shirt, but he was too fat)...and somehow, the retractable leash came off of his collar, retracted at full speed, and popped me squarely in the groin, sending me to the ground in pain!! To make matters worse, Fritz decided to jump on my groin, where I had just been ''popped''!!
Janice came outside, saw me down, in pain, and helped me get inside. Embarassingly, I ''had her take a look'', as I thought I was in mortal danger (males can bleed to death from an injury in that area). I asked her if she thought any less of me (I thought she was going to dump me like a hot rock), and she said ''I give you credit for your common sense...I would have called the paramedics if I had seen blood''. I knew right then that she was the one for me...and proposed to her two days later. If she wasn't going to take care of me before marriage, I knew that she wouldn't take care of me after marriage. So, you could say that even Fritz, her dachshund, wanted me (grin!).
Through our engagement, we had numerous instances of ''reading each others minds''...where we were ''just thinking about what the other one had just spoken about''. That ''bonding'' strengthened us further, as my parents were originally opposed to the marriage...but they accepted her soon after, in seeing how happy we were together.
We were married on May 18, 2003 at the Community Church Of God in Bryant, Arkansas, by her pastor, Leon Steele. While the wedding normally takes place in the brides church, and she moves to her husbands church after the wedding...as a courtesy to Janice, I was at her church throughout our marriage. We spent our honeymoon at DeGray State Park Lodge, north of Arkadelphia, Arkansas...and had planned to go there for a second honeymoon. Sadly, we never got that chance.
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A viewing and funeral service was held in Little Rock, Arkansas on May 2 and 3, 2007...followed by cremation, as she had wished. On May 11, 2007, a memorial service was held for her in Apopka, Florida, where the urn of her remains were laid to rest, until The Rapture Of The Church, when she will receive a new, incorruptible, immortal body.
In lieu of flowers, the family kindly requests that memorials be made to:
1) The Community Church Of God, Bryant, Arkansas
2) The American Diabetes Association, or your local diabetes research group. There is a Tour De Cure bike race that takes place each year, and it's a series of fundraising cycling events held in 43 states nationwide, to benefit the American Diabetes Association. The Tour is a ride, not a race, with routes designed for everyone from the occasional rider to the experienced cyclist. Whether you ride 10 miles or 100 miles, you will travel a route; supported from start to finish with rest stops, food to fuel the journey and fans to cheer you on! Each Tour de Cure event has its own character and style...from unique starting points, to gorgeous scenery, and more!
3) Heart Clinic Arkansas, 10100 Kanis Road, Little Rock, Arkansas 72205.
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I had known three women over the years since Janice's death, and were friends with each of them for a short time. However, due to various issues...not to mention that at this stage of life, too many people (men and women) have too much baggage (physical, emotional, financial, etc.) to deal with...and I do not have the stamina or resources to deal with ''all the extra drama''.
For this reason, I am no longer ''in a relationship''...have ''taken myself off the market'' (I hardly considered myself as ''fresh meat'')...and have resolved to spending the rest of my life alone, as a widower...because Janice really set the bar high, in so many ways, especially in being a virtuous, Christian woman...which as Proverbs 31:10 notes...''she was more valuable than fine rubies''.
It would take a Mighty Miracle from The Lord to make me change that. I'm basically a full time caregiver (except for actual physical care) for my elderly Mom, and with numerous new health issues of my own, I have ENDED all travel outside of central Arkansas. While I don't mind being ''a shoulder to cry on'', I can NOTsee the relationship going much further than that. Now, if The Good Lord wants to make a liar out of me (He did it once before), that's His Choice. But, that's out of my hands now.
Rest In Peace...My Sweet Snake...your loving Alligator misses you so much.
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